WHAT YOU OPT FOR, HEART OR VIRGINITY?




A lot of people believe that everything in India walks the wrong way (like the cars on road). When asked about few things like sex, relationship, love an Indian would probably 99.9% say that love comes first then comes relationship then marriage, that too if they feel connected, and for a lot of people, over the time, connection is on basis of their compatibility on bed. For girls/women, losing their virginity is a big THING. India is still living in an Era, where women are still afraid of losing virginity because they are “THE IZZAT OF FAMILY” and also because of rumors that it can be known if a girl is virgin or not. The question that rises in my mind, while thinking about this is how does it matter? Can you know if a guy is virgin or not, if he does not confess himself? What is wrong in it, if you lose your virginity with someone you love, No matter what happens later in life?
Why is it that in our society virginity is HUGEEEEEE THING, whereas a heart is broken every now and then? On contrary, heart should have been the most important thing in this entire world and one should be afraid to break heart rather than breaking one’s virginity.
A survey says in US or any other foreign country, dating comes first which doesn’t involve words like I LOVE YOU, but they just stick to words “I like you” and “I am attracted to you”, whereas in India even before one actually knows about someone enough to LIKE him or her, one confesses “Yaar muje pyar hogaya hai tujhse!”. Then the next step in relationship of foreign countries is sex, which is a big social stigma in India before marriage. Now the thought behind taking this step so fast is, they believe that indulging physically early would not distract them later when they are in love, as in they would like to know heart of other person rather thinking of having sex all the time, which happens in India where love happens first and people think and talk of sex more rather than sharing their life and emotions. Obviously this cannot be generalized, but more often this is what has been noticed.
After sex come’s commitment, that guys in India do not usually like to opt for and later comes marriage, a step that is taken after completely knowing about a person, unlike in India where two strangers are tied together or Lovers leave right before such moments because it wasn’t what they were planning.

 Breakups and patch-ups are part of life, why to let it have a big effect on our life? Why we feel our life is waste if we fail? Try to read between the lines; try to understand that relationships mostly fail because of lack of understanding. Not that foreign couples do not part away, they do. Yes I agree that society influence is a lot in India as compared to other countries,  I am not saying that we are wrong and from tomorrow everyone should have sex first then move to next step, but think over it – is heart more important or your virginity.

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